Minggu, 18 November 2018

Korek Api

Gelap
Hitam
Ku cari korek api
Di setiap sudut rumah
Ia menghilang
Padahal kurasa tadi ada
Di dekatku
Di jangkauanku
Kenapa sekarang tidak ada
Aku butuh cahaya
Aku takut gelap
Ku mohon
Aku sekarat 

Jatinangor, 19 November 2018

Jumat, 09 November 2018

Penolakan

Malam itu hujan rintik
Perciknya yang jatuh ke loteng
Gemericik seperti suara manusia 
Sedang mengais-ngais pecahan rindu
Yang berhamburan di sisipan buku puisi usang
Pekik mengikik meronta
Menembus cengkraman malam yang bising
Akibat kenangan kabur dari bayang-bayang
 Ego manusia yang menantang alam
Mereka berpesta pora merayakan kebebasan
Menari-nari riang di lantai jalan yang licin
Mengejek langit, mencaci bumi, menentang Tuhan

Rabu, 07 November 2018

Dendam Untuk Melupa




Kali ini kita berbicara tentang dendam.
Sebuah hal yang sanggup menghitamkan siang
Memanaskan sang malam
Menyesatkan wahai dia si petualang

Dendam berasal dari cinta yang dalam
Membibit dari percaya yang mengalir dalam nadi
Bersemi karena pengkhianatan
Tumbuh akibat rasa sakit yang menumpuk dan terpupuk
Hingga tinggi sampai si Empunya tak sanggup menahan

Tapi, ada perumpamaan
Racun adalah obat dari segala obat
Begitupula dengan dendam
Dendam merupakan obat ampuh untuk melupa
Dendamlah kau sejadi-jadinya
Tusuk cinta itu dengan pisu hingga lega
Hingga ia lenyap dalam tawa

Ketika cinta itu lenyap
Tusuklah hatimu
Sirami dengan air jeruk nipis segar
Hingga ia mengelupas perih
Lalu cabut pisau itu
Teriakan semuanya
Dan kau akan melupa bahwa pernah mencinta.

Jatinangor, 07 Nov. 18
Dibalik kaca yang tergores rintik hujan
Basah tapi tidak basah

Senin, 05 November 2018

ON LEADERSHIP : Five Components of Emotional Inteligence


 ” Leadership is more art than science”
“different situations call for different types of leadership”
“ Emotional inteligence is the sin qua non of leadership “
“ Without emotional inteligence a person can have the best training in the world, an incisive, analytical mind, and an endless supply of smart ideas, but he still won’t make a great leader “

The Emotional Inteligence skills are :
1. Self Awareness :
- Knowing one’s strength, weaknesesses, drives, value, and impact on others.
- Hallmarks  :self confidence, realistic self-assessment, thirst of constructive criticsm.
People with high degree self-awareness recognize how their feeling affect them, other  people, and their job performances. Can turn the anger into something constructive, understanding of his or her value and goals, knows where he is headed and why, can speak accurately and openly, frank and admitting to failure and tell their tales with smile, comfortable talking their limitations and strength, thirst to constructibe critisism, sef confidence, 

2. Self Regulation :
- Controlling or redirecting disruptive impulses and moods.
- Hallmarks : trustworthiness, integrity, comfort with ambiguity and change.
The component of emotional inteligence that frees us from being prisoners of our feelings. People engaged in such conversation feel bad moods emotional impulses just aseveryone else does, but they find ways to control them and even to channel them in useful ways. He/she will pick up the word carefully, acknowledging the team’s poor performance without rushing to any hasty judgment. People with self regulation can control their feeling and impulses. They are able to create an environment of trust and fairness.  

3. Motivation :
- Relishing achievment for its own sake.
- Hallmarks : A passion of the work itself and for new chalenge, unflagging energy to improve, optimism in the face of failure.
Those with leadership potential are motivated by a deeply embedded desire to achieve for the sake of achievment. Such people seek out creative chalenge, love to learn, and take great pride in a job well done. Optimistic when the score is against them

4. Social Skill :
- Building rapport with others to move them in desired directions
- Hallmarks : effectiveness in leading change, persuasiveness, extensive networking, expertise in building and leading teams
People with social skills are friendliness with a purpose, moving people in the direction thar desired. Socially skilled people tend to have a wide circle of acquintances and they have a knack for finding common ground with people of all kinds. People with social skills tend to be very effective at managing relationship when they can undestand and control their own emotions and can empatizes with the feelings of others.

5. Empathy :
- Understanding other people’s emotional make up
- Hallmarks : expertise in attracting and retaining talent, ability to develop others, sensityvity to cross-cultural differences.
Empathy is particularly important today as a component f leadership for at least three reasons: the rapid face of globalizations, the increasing use of teams, and the growing need to retain talent. Empathy is an antidote. People who have it are attuned to subtleties in body language, they can hear the message beneath the words being spoken. They have a deep undestanding of both the existence and the importance of cultural and ethnic difference.

We’re born with certainlevel of EI skills. But we can strengthen these abilities through persistence, practice, and feedback from colleagues or coaches.

Source : Goleman, Daniel.2011. On Leadership : What Makes A leader?, Harvard Business School Publishing Corporation. USA

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